When it comes to violence between partners, it is always a touchy topic. There is one philosophy that has remained true for the most part. It is the philosophy that you cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. To be more exact, you simply can’t do anything unless the person actually commits to the help.
It’s like you’re playing a game of volleyball. You hit the ball to the other side of the court. It is up to the other person to return the ball your way. Many of these relationships persist simply because the abused partner allows it to.